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The Virago Manifesto

Every woman's guide to sucking it up (no, not sucking him up)

Here’s the deal. Today we’re going to start something new, again. I’m tired of trying to figure out what people want to hear. I’m sick of learning about SEO techniques. Who gives a shit about a public image? Fuck Grammarly. I’m going to write the same way I talk and let's talk about what I know, how to start over.

For quite some time, I’ve been thinking about starting a project, a book, a course, on a topic I know for sure I’m an expert on, beginning again and not giving a fuck what other people think. There is an actual art to picking yourself up off the pavement after a series of bad decisions. If you don’t know that, this isn’t for you.

I keep up with the happenings on social media. We all have Facebook, Instagram, whatever. The one thing I have noticed about all the social media outlets is, where’s my demographic? Are we really that embarrassed by who we are? Where are the self-destructive, addicted, the lost, the forgotten? Why is everyone trying to pretend they aren’t broke? We are wasting our time comparing ourselves to influencers. They’re miserable anyway.

The word Virago is defined as a domineering, violent, or bad-tempered woman. I’d say I qualify. Oh, I’m ill-tempered alright and you should be too. It’s time ladies. It’s time to realize that relationships are overrated. The ONLY relationship that you should invest in is the one you have with your fucking self. It’s time to figure out what your purpose is. It’s time to stop letting someone else’s expectations dictate your life. It’s time to stop letting other people make you feel like less. It’s time to stand up and tell anyone who doesn’t see you for who you really are to suck a dick.

A little harsh? It’s too late for manners. Nobody hears you when you’re nice. Being nice sends one message, “please bend me over again (and not even in a good way) and make sure I’m broke when you leave.” Fuck that. Fuck him or her or anyone who makes you feel depleted. Get rid of them. Goodbye. Do not come back. Fuck deleting your texts. Fuck not being yourself. Fuck not wearing what you want to wear. Fuck putting yourself second. Fuck putting up with anyone's bullshit, regardless of who they are. I don’t care if they’re your mom, your dad, brother, sister, boyfriend, or best friend. We have been on this planet long enough to know that anyone who makes you feel like you should just keep your mouth shut has GOT TO GO.

The one thing about women, we can love just about anyone. It doesn’t matter how ugly or broke they are, we will convince ourselves that they are “the one.” Look, this isn’t about being shallow. I know from experience, you can not date the hottest guy in the room, either. They suck in bed. (There’s only been one exception to that rule and you know who you are.) They think they don’t have to do anything. You could literally sneak out of the room and they wouldn’t notice. The point is, women, yes you, will COMPLETELY ignore a guy when he tells you what a piece of shit he is. And why is it somebody please explain to me that the one I want… the most emotionally unavailable? Mommy issues. I’m not immune. I am you. You are me. This is a “we” thing. You know it, I know it, we all know it. Women run shit and it’s time we harness that power.

It’s time to shed ourselves from all the people who don’t understand us. It’s time to quit crying about whoever or whatever didn’t go our way. Boo hoo bitch. It’s time to figure out what makes you different, what makes you stand out from the crowd, and build on that. We have all seen exactly what it looks like watching someone we care about destroy their own life. We have all seen what it looks like watching one of our closest friends be a slave to some toxic-ass, one-sided relationship with some guy that is not near cute enough to be so badly behaved. Do not be that girl. We know what disappointment looks like. Fuck that. This is step one in The Virago Manifesto. Learn how to walk away. And DO NOT look back.




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